Scenarios to Consider

When reading the scenarios,
consider these questions:

Notice the event:
What did you see or hear in the scenario that concerns you?

Consider whether the situation demands action:
How does this situation affect you?
How does it affect someone else?

Decide if you have a responsibility to act:
What are the risks for taking action?
Are there others in a better position to act?

Choose the form of assistance:
What can you do?
What can you encourage in others?

Understand how to implement action:
Do you know how to implement your choice?
Do you have the resources you need?

Who could say or do something?
What can be done?
    • It is a Friday night and you are walking to Shell with a group of friends. You see a man making rude and objectifying comments to a person walking towards New College from his car.  (Adapted from Banyard, Plante, and Moynihan, 2004).
    • The five-year-old boy you babysit just told you that a six-year-old girl in the neighborhood wants to play “doctor” every time they get together, even though he does not like it. You talk with him about how to say “no” and commend him for bringing this up to you. You wonder if there is anything else that could be done in this situation.

    • Your friend calls you one evening asking for help. They explain that their partner has started becoming more persistent about sex, and sometimes seems to disregard whether they are interested in having relations. They explain that they don’t feel raped, but do want the interaction to be healthier.

    • You’re at an off-campus party with a few of your friends, and you notice that a person you don’t recognize is talking with your friend and touching their shoulder. It’s so loud inside that you can’t hear what they’re saying, but you know that your friend has had a few drinks.
    • Your roommate has recently started hooking up with a mutual friend. They are happy to have someone to enjoy intimacy with, but there’s certain acts they aren’t comfortable doing with the partner. The partner implied earlier that day that they could engage in one of these acts tonight. Your roommate asks you how to explain their discomfort without losing their chance at future intimacy with the mutual friend.
    • You are driving your friend and a few acquaintances back from a movie and one of them says to the rest, “yeah, you know they're is always up for it, I can’t wait to ‘hit that’ Saturday night!”
    • You see a man and a woman in the supermarket checkout line begin to argue. He yells at her for what she has bought, how much she wants to spend, and how she cooks. He continues to yell and begins to criticize how she looks. You see the woman cringe at the yelling, but she makes no effort to leave. (Adapted from the BARCC discussion group). 
    • Your friend, Alex, is in a serious relationship, and their partner frequently comes to visit. You’ve seen them walk your friend to class and help them do their laundry. At first it seems sweet, and everyone comments on how Alex’s partner “worships” them. Over time you notice some changes in Alex’s behavior. They seem jittery, they keep their door closed all the time, and they haven’t been going to 4 Winds, which isn’t like them. You also noticed that they frequently don’t answer their cell phone.  (Adapted from Helping Advocate Ending Violence Now (HAVEN))