LGBTQIA+ Survivors

Same-gender relationships have higher rates of domestic violence than differently-gendered relationships. 

Abusive partners in LGBTQIA relationships use all of the same tactics to gain power and control as abusive partners in heterosexual relationships. However, these tactics take on an added layer when considering the effects of heterosexism, biphobia, homophobia, and transphobia on the relationship and the resources available to the survivor. 

Some of these tactics include:
  • "Outing" someone's sexual orientation or gender.
  • Claiming no one will help the survivor because of sexual orientation/gender identity.
  • Justifying abuse with the notion that survivor is not "really" LGBTQIA+.
  • Expressing the violence as mutual and even consensual (as an expression of masculinity or some other "desirable" trait).
  • Withholding access to medical services, including counseling, psychiatry, and gender-affirming care.

Potential Action Steps
  • Encourage any person in an abusive relationship to seek professional help.

  • Listen to your friend when they reveal information to you. Focus on how you can help them, rather than expressing anger or yelling.

  • Think about your own safety when you approach the situation. You might want to have a friend with you for back up and help.

  • If the violence gets physical, call 9-1-1, hit a blue pole, or call campus police right away.

  • Do not touch the individuals no matter how well you may know them.

  • Be aware of your tone of voice and volume. Stay calm.

  • Calmly attempt to separate the individuals without putting yourself in danger.

  • Be respectful of both individuals and their viewpoints. Listen fully to the concerns.You don't want to further escalate the situation.
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