Men as Survivors

Men can also be survivors of domestic violence. Many cases related to this are often unreported for fear of not living up to the gender stereotype of a "macho" man. These cases affect young and older men alike. Reporting is also an issue because many survivors fear not being believed, denied victim status, and lack of support from society, friends, and family. 

Statistically, one out of fourteen men has been physically assaulted by a current or former spouse, cohabiting partner, boyfriend/girlfriend, or date at some point in their lives. Victimization occurs much more frequently in same-sex relationships than heterosexual relationships. 

Men experience many of the same psychological reactions to violence as women, including guilt, shame, anger and anxiety, depression, a loss of self-worth and confidence, and withdrawal from relationships. To add to that, men who witness domestic violence as children are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children than those who did not witness domestic violence. 

Many male survivors of domestic violence have difficulty defining their experiences as abusive. 
Due to the stereotypes of strong men and the notion that "men don't cry" some people may feel as though the idea of a man being vulnerable is 
unlikely or that they should have been able to prevent the abuse. 

Any and all genders can experience domestic violence.

It is not your fault. No one deserves to be abused in any way, physically, emotionally, verbally, or sexually. 

Male survivors are not alone.

Facts about Male Survivors:
  • One in 33 men have been the victim of a completed or attempted rape.
  • 86% of adult men who were physically assaulted were assaulted by a man.
  • 70% of adult men who were raped were raped by a man.
  • 56% of adult men who reported being physically assaulted were assaulted by a stranger.
  • 40% of gay and bisexual men will experience abuse from an intimate partner.

Our local rape crisis and domestic violence center, SPARCC, serves people of all genders. 

Other resources for men who are survivors: 

An instant messaging service with a trained volunteer that is free, anonymous, and confidential.