Men as Survivors

From a young age, men and boys are told that they should desire sex and that they should be strong and powerful. These ideas -- social expectations -- of masculinity can be incredibly difficult to reconcile with a survivor's experience of sexual assault. Because of these expectations, survivors may feel that accepting that an assault happened or disclosing a history of abuse may impede their masculinity or make them look weak to others. 
Our society also assumes that men cannot be sexually assaulted, but this is not true. 

Boys and men can be sexually abused. Sexual abuse affects people of all genders.
In fact, in the U.S., about 10% of all victims of sexual assault, sexual abuse, and rape are men and boys. 
It is estimated that 1 in 6 men have experienced sexual abuse as children.

          • Being sexually assaulted at a young age makes boys gay.

          • Men always want to have sex, so can't experience sexual assault. 

          • If you experience physical stimulation or orgasm during an assault, it doesn't count. 

          • Gay and bisexual men pose a threat to heterosexual men. 
  • Sexual abuse status and sexual orientation are two separate aspects of our identities. 

  • Consent must be given for each and every sexual interaction. 

  • We can't control what our bodies do. Both sexual stimulation and orgasm can occur during sexual assaults. It does not mean that you wanted it to happen. 

  • Gay and bisexual men are more likely to be assaulted, not assault.